Book Review: A Praying Life May 24, 2011Posted by The Virtual Abbey in book review, spiritual practices.
Reviewed by Sue Tanida.
A Praying Life: Connecting With God in a Distracting World
Paper: 288 pps
A Praying Life is premised upon something I believe is true: most Christians feel inadequate about praying because we are perfectionists about the process.
We seek perfect prayer rather than a relationship with our Creator.
Paul Miller writes simply and from the heart about prayer. His own vulnerability makes his writing accessible. He shares about challenges he has faced in his own life, including having a special needs daughter. He admits that even pastors can be distracted and imperfect in their prayer lives.
This book definitely encourages readers to stop worrying about prayer and just pray. In fact, more than once, I saw myself in its pages and stopped to pray “God, this is so me. Please help me get over myself and get more real with you…”
I love the structure of the Daily Office, but it’s important to pray spontaneously as well. I normally don’t pray out loud, other than in my car (and then I feel free to get pretty loud, especially if I’m angry or sad) and Miller’s book has helped me fit more moments of silent, spontaneous prayer into my life, whether it be while working out at the gym or even while using a restroom.
If you want to have a freer, more spontaneous, conversational relationship with God, I recommend this book. If you’re afraid to have a freer, more spontaneous, conversational relationship with God, I especially recommend this book.
How to be a Monastic and Not Leave Your Day Job:
An Invitation to Oblate Life
Brother Benet Tvedten
Paraclete Press (2006)
Paper: 119 pps.
I’ve loved the Benedictine tradition since stepping into the Abbey of Gethsemane in Kentucky almost a decade ago. Something deep within my soul said, “this fits.” I knew nothing about monastic traditions at the time.
The Daily Office, The Rule of St. Benedict….no idea.
I’ll always be thankful that my introduction to monasticism was observing the monks at that monastery. My first feeling was one of being welcomed with genuine love. A monk sits at a desk in the main hall greeting visitors. When you enter and he simply says, “Welcome. Would it be helpful for you to receive spiritual assistance during your time here?”
If your response is, “No, thank you,” he hands you your key he and says, “Then may you find within these walls all that you need from the God who already knows.” I’ve wanted that tattooed on my face since the first time I heard it.
I’ve been thinking a lot about the monastery this week probably because I’m long overdue for a visit. Tonight, as I was atoning for my carb sins of the day on the treadmill (totally worth it), I read How to be a Monastic and Not Leave Your Day Job. Great book. Living in the moment enhances our spiritual lives.
Monasteries are the Gold Standard of intentional community when it comes to living in the moment. When they’re called to pray they pray. When they’re called to work they work. Wherever they are — they’re all there. Oh, I’m sure their minds wander and they have bad days too, but overall, they’re giving all of who they are to what they’re called to be right this moment. God is interested in my obedience right now. St. Benedict says, “The Lord calls out to us daily. Persevere wherever you are by embracing the routine of your daily life. This is how you find God now.”
I don’t know what God has for me 10 years from now or if I’ll even be here. I do know that God is calling me to walk with him, to give him these moments, and to trust him with today. I really believe Jesus managed to keep his eyes on the cross and on the events of daily life simultaneously.
Maybe the secret of a fulfilling life with God is keeping all this in balance. I’m going to start looking for more ways in my day to point people to “the answer” without trying to be one. And then as I leave the situation pray, “God may they find all that they need from you who already knows.” Freeing.